Although the story isn’t new, I think it’s worth connecting back to a Washington Post story from December 2007 with tips for a good divorce. Here are the tips, all smart ideas and cost-effective ones:
1. Face facts.
2. But get second opinions…about your options and about the law.
3. Set the tone: Be rational and save the drama.
4. Take your time [be patient, unless there are domestic violence issues].
5. Opt out of court.
6. Keep kids out of it.
7. Don’t assume that, because there are no kids, this will be easy.
8. Confide with care, or “Try not to bad-mouth your spouse to common friends or family.”
9. Get a grip [on your emotions].
10. Be well [in other words, take care of yourself].
Because divorce is a process, and because you and your ex can be connected for years after the divorce because of kids or property, it’s worth it to plan for a good divorce because it can give you a good life after divorce.